“Grief remains one of the few things that has the power to silence us.”
I thought this quote was a good topic to ponder and discuss here on this blog. I know I held my pain in silence for many years before the flood gates opened (not really opened, more like torn of the hinges). Not sure why my first response was to bury it and not talk about it. Maybe I thought I could handle it on my own just like everything else I had ever experienced in my life. I didn’t want to feel like I was burdening others with my problems. I didn’t want to be perceived as weak or a whiner by other men. I wonder how much pain I could have saved myself if I would have just started talking about my children’s death early on. Would it have made a difference? Hard to know at this point in time. I like to think it would have helped. I now believe that it takes a lot of courage to talk about your “feelings” and allow others to see your pain. A lot of courage.
Why is the concept of “letting it out” so difficult for men? Is it the way we were raised? Is it how we are genetically programmed? Are there other factors?
Let me know your thoughts on this topic. Why are men often times silenced by grief?