Category Archives: Despair

“Full Impact” by Kelly Farley

Full Impact I was recently at an event for the consulting engineering industry that I work in and ran into a couple of fellow colleagues. During the conversation, I asked one of them how a fellow co-worker and friend of … Continue reading

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“Dark Days” by Kelly Farley

Dark Days I was driving in to work today and thinking how far I have come since the early days of my grief. I started thinking about how something as simple as a good song gets me singing (not pretty, … Continue reading

Posted in Agonize, Anger, anxiety, Bereaved Parents, Counseling, counselor, Death of a baby, Death of a Child, Death of a daughter, Death of a son, Debilitating, Depression, Despair, Devastation, Emotions, Grief, Hope, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Daughter, Loss of a Son, Men's Grief, Survival, Words of Encouragement | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

“Lurking” by Kelly Farley

Lurking I realize I have come a long way since the early days of grief when I would find myself on my hands and knees because the pain (emotional) was so intense I couldn’t function. When the anxiety got the … Continue reading

Posted in anxiety, Bereaved, Bereaved Parents, Death of a baby, Death of a Child, Death of a daughter, Death of a son, Debilitating, Depression, Despair, Emotions, Exhausting, Grief, Grieving Dads, Having a Bad Day, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Daughter, Loss of a Son, Men's Grief | Tagged , , , , , , , | 14 Comments

“Dead Where It Stands” by Kelly Farley

“Dead Where It Stands” As many of you know, we (me, Barry Kluger and Jim Boyle) have been working for 3.5 years on Federal legislation to change the Family Medical Leave Act of 1993 (FMLA) to add bereaved parents to … Continue reading

Posted in anxiety, Bereaved Parents, Death of a baby, Death of a Child, Death of a daughter, Death of a son, Debilitating, Depression, Despair, Family Medical Leave Act, Farley-Kluger, FMLA, HR.515, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Daughter, Loss of a Son, Parental Bereavement Act of 2013, PTSD, s.226, Senator Tester | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

“Pissed off at God” by Kelly Farley

 “Pissed off at God” by Kelly Farley This post is for the faith based grieving dads with faith based beliefs. I have for the most part over the last 4 years stayed clear of postings that revolve around faith. I … Continue reading

Posted in Anger, Bereaved Parents, Death of a Child, Despair, Faith, Hope, Inspiration, Peace, Survival, Uncategorized | Tagged , | 13 Comments

“When to Say Goodbye”

This one is a tough one because it hits very close to home for me.  My wife and I also had to say goodbye to both of our children.  There is always the “what if’s” or the questioning that goes … Continue reading

Posted in Agonize, Compassion, Courage, Death of a baby, Death of a son, Despair, Devastation, Tough | Tagged , , | 2 Comments

“Kept it All to Myself”

The following was sent to me by a fellow grieving dad to let me know how he was treated at is place of employment after the death of his children.  I can’t tell you how much this pisses me off … Continue reading

Posted in Anti-Bullying, Bereaved Parents, Death of a Child, Death of a daughter, Death of a son, Debilitating, Despair, Devastation, Farley-Kluger, FMLA, Grief, Grieving Dads, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Daughter, Loss of a Son, Men's Grief, Parental Bereavement Act of 2013, s.226 | 8 Comments

“Feel the Emotions” by Kelly Farley

Feel the Emotion I know this is a few days late for a Thanksgiving posting, but I think it applies regardless of the holiday or not.  Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays and over the last several years I … Continue reading

Posted in Bereaved, Compassion, Crying, Death of a baby, Death of a Child, Death of a daughter, Despair, Emotions, Grief, Healing, Honored, Hope, Inspiration, Life Lessons, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Daughter, Loss of a Son, Survival, Thanksgiving, Words of Encouragement | 3 Comments

“Reach Out” by Kelly Farley

One of the things I learned from the pain I went through, was the power of reaching out to others that have also buried a child.  Although it was impossible to do this in the beginning of my journey, there … Continue reading

Posted in Compassion, Courage, Death of a Child, Death of a daughter, Death of a son, Debilitating, Depression, Despair, Devastation, Healing, Hope, Inspiration, Loss of a Child, Loss of a Daughter, Loss of a Son, Pain, Survival, Tough, Words of Encouragement | 6 Comments

“Crazy” by Kelly Farley

“Crazy” Psychiatrist and therapy are two words that I used to have negative thoughts about.  When I was growing up, I always thought that those two words were associated with people that were “crazy”.  Those that read my book understand … Continue reading

Posted in Anti-depressant, anxiety, Counseling, counselor, Courage, Death of a Child, Depression, Despair, Gardening, Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back, Healing, Hope, Kelly Farley, Living Simple, Medication, Mental Health, Pain, Panic, Peace, Perspective | 16 Comments